How forgiveness restored and healed my shattered life...
"Shortly after my surgery for cancer in 1988, I received a call from a doctor associated with the University of Rochester who was active in the field of cancer research.
He told me that my stomach cancer was "unique." Being from New Zealand, I gave an off-the-cuff response, Yes, It's a "down-under" kind!
He then stunned me by saying, " I believe this cancer was caused by a deep bitterness you are holding against someone."
You could have picked me off the floor! Of course, he was right...
I had been nursing a grudge for more than 12 years.
I was angry, bitter and in full denial when the doctor spoke those words to me.
Like so many others, I was also very hurt and depressed...
Several days later, on a Sunday afternoon, I was talking on the phone to the very person whom I blamed most for my hurt and failure. I was very bitter.
I also admitted that I too had sinned, and I was well aware that my life was messed up. As the conversation developed, I could feel the old accusations beginning to come out again.
Suddenly, I became aware of the Holy Spirit.
Something was different. I was ready to fight, and yet a small, but powerful voice within me said gently, "This is the time to release forgiveness to this person who has offended and hurt you so deeply."
I did not feel like releasing any such thing. In fact, I felt like unleashing another attack...
The urging continued. I had to act in spite of my feelings. Finally, I blurted out, "I do not understand what is going on inside of me, but GOD is telling me to release forgiveness to you."
As these words came out of my mouth, it gave way to an unbelievable moment in my life. Tears and a fountain of cleansing broke open inside of me. We repented. We sobbed. We forgave, and instantly the bitterness was gone!
It was over.
I was emotionally set free, and remain so 30 years later. It worked!
The cords of anger and hurt toward this individual had been severed. In "releasing" forgiveness, I received release within myself. I received healing.
In receiving this individual's repentance, I received cleansing!
After my fantastic experience of "releasing forgiveness" and seeing the results, I returned home realizing that I had never heard of forgiveness being released, so I studied the Bible and began to see the following:
Acts 7:54-60 (KJV)
58 And cast him out of the city, and stoned him: and the witnesses laid down their clothes at a young man's feet, whose name was Saul.
59 And they stoned Stephen, calling upon God, and saying, Lord Jesus, receive my spirit.
60 And he kneeled down, and cried with a loud voice, Lord, lay not this sin to their charge. And when he had said this, he fell asleep."
It is widely believed that the offended person should wait until the person who has offended or committed the sin comes and asks or begs for forgiveness...
This is not so!
In fact, the opposite is true.
We are warned:
"For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins."
We must release forgiveness - or be destroyed, from within.
Holding anger or bitterness is like you and I drinking poison every day, and hoping that it will kill the other person. No, it kills us...
To forgive does NOT require that you trust the one you forgive. But should they confess and repent, it can allow the opportunity to reach out and begin to build a bridge of reconciliation.
Unforgiveness consumes whatever vessel it is in...
To "forgive" means to "untie."
The perfect way to free yourself from an enemy is to forgive them. Untie the bindings and loosen yourself from that person's energy .
Hatred, and bitterness will tie you to any person responsible for your pain. Releasing a forgiving spirit and attitude enables you to start walking away from him or her and the pain.
Forgiving is for you and not the other party. Freeing yourself through forgiving is like freeing yourself from mental or spiritual prison.
I once had a relative who owed me $800. Every time I saw her, I was instantly reminded how she owed me money. For years, just hearing or thinking of her name - I saw $800 on the movie screen of my mind. Finally, it was hurting me more than it was hurting her, so I figured my peace had more value than $800. I deliberately "released forgiveness" and spiritually assumed that it was "paid in full." The memory never faded, but the associated anxiety and emotional frustration no longer existed...
Jesus released forgiveness on the cross.
Matthew 7:24-27 "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do..."
This is the words of Jesus releasing forgiveness.
As in my case, I was informed that two surgeons had to physically cut out almost 30 lb - a huge cancerous mass that had to be surgically removed. I was asleep, so I didn't see what was going on.
But, the greater miracle took place a few weeks later, when the spiritual mass of bitterness and resentment was removed through the miracle of forgiving!
Isn't it time for your life to be transformed?
Releasing the forgiving power is definity the way to go.
Let's get to work!
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